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Friday, 11 April 2014

Being a Mother - The Gift of Motherhood

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The Birthday week begins. Revaant, my bundle of joy, is about to complete a year. A whole year has passed us by - a year of countless belly laughs, squeals of delight and open-mouthed kisses. Of snuggling chest-to-chest, and resting his head on my shoulder. A year of new foods and new abilities and new discoveries. A year of contented sighs and sweet dreams and messy faces and stinky diapers. The babbling, singing, biting, and smiling, the gummy grins and eight teeth. A beautiful year of watching my baby bond with his father, moments so precious I will never forget.

As I said, it has been one incredible year. My child has brought never ending happiness into our lives and every single day with him is an adventure. I was actually laughing through tears of joy while I delivered him one year ago. It was undoubtedly the single best experience of my life and now, looking back, I feel as if it was only a glimpse of what was to come. A lifetime of beauty, elation, laughter, wonder, unconditional love and commitment, all wrapped up together in one precious and charismatic bundle.

I am thankful to my baby boy for giving me the gift of motherhood.

Thursday, 10 April 2014

Being a mother : Is priceless

Parenting A Child - I have been blessed with two beautiful children - Fatima and Ibrahim. From the very first moment when I learnt that I am carrying my love in my womb, my heart filled with immense joy. My love for my unborn children grew with each flutter and kick. As they were born and I held them in my arms and would rock them to sleep while singing whatever sweet tune filled my heart.

I try to show them with every breath how much they mean to me. I try to give them affection and attention every day of my life. Fatima is now in class 3 and Ibrahim is in LKG. Every single day, I look forward to hearing them share their learning and experiences with me so that I can get a glimpse of their moments away from me and also help and guide them.

I love to sit with them through their homework. I go through their text books when they are not around so I can figure out every little detail and be a part of their learning process. I just pray that wherever they go in life when they grow up, they must remember that their mom loves them. I would lay down my life just to make my little ones smile. They are the reason I wake up every morning, looking forward to a day full of beautiful moments. They are the reason why I can face life's hardships easily.

Without my children, I would have no one to love. My children are like sponges. They absorb everything from me but with one squeezing hug I get it all back . Isn't that PRICELESS ? !!

Wednesday, 9 April 2014

Being a Mother - The incredible first moment

I gave birth to my son in my hometown Manipur. My husband works as a software developer in a firm in Gurgaon and hence could not stay with us in manipur for more than 20 days.


Being a Mother - The incredible first moment

For three months I stayed at my husband’s place. My mother-in-law and relatives took care of me. Then after three months my son and i came to Delhi. After coming to gurgoan my routine changed as i joined back to work when my son turned 7 month of age. I had always thought that i would breast feed him for 6 months, as that would have been best for him. When I get exhausted with my daily chores, household work and office tasks, and i realize that I am doing everything for him, most of my tiredness goes away. When I come back home after a long day and see my son's loving face , all my fatigue goes away.

For the first time I started making roti, paratha and puri for his tiffin. We started sending him to day-care from 9 am to 6 pm from Monday to Saturday since he was only one year and six months old. These days whatever I do I always think of the best for my son. I started thinking that I have to be a strong mother for my son.

Besides his father, I came to realize that I am the best person who can bring happiness to my son. Now at our house, everything is done according to my son's routine. Now, he can speak our native language Manipuri very well and can speak Hindi to some extent. Every day he is learning new things from day care. He can sing rhymes both in Hindi and English.

After having my son, I came to realize how much care and love I got form my parents. Now we are revolving around his life. We always give first priority to our son's needs. Our life has become very interesting after his arrival. Every day is a new day for us. We are very proud of our son. I am very happy taking care of him . I feel very happy being a mother to my son. When any negative thought comes to my mind then I always think that i need to be a strong mother for my Son.

Monday, 7 April 2014

Academic Underachievement in Adolescents: Psychosocial factors


“Whenever you want to achieve something, keep your eyes open, concentrate and make sure you know exactly what it is you want. No one can hit their target with their eyes closed.” ? Paulo Coelho

Underachievement means to perform less than expected which is what happens with almost all of us in all domains of life be it our jobs, our home, or taking care of our kids, or any area which demands our contribution. In the context of academics, when the performance is way below expectations in schools we call it academic underachievement. In adolescents underachievement becomes all the more an important area worth consideration because they have to make career choices in the years to come. Listening to parents complain that their teenager has lost interest in studies, or is working hard but still not able to get scores accordingly, is not quite uncommon. When I heard these narrations about my 13 years old niece from my sister-in -law that she lacks concentration, has become moody and her performance has gone steep down when compared with previous years, I kept pondering over the causes related to it and how this issue should be dealt with. This issue really touched me somewhere deep down as I myself have been a witness of her growing up over the years, and I know how good she had been in academics as well as in co-curricular activities as a child. To find possible causes for her decline in performance is what motivated me to take up this topic as my area of research.
Lets first establish, what is Adolescence?
Adolescence can be described be a period when an individual is between childhood and adulthood i.e. 11 to19 years. It is the age of stress and storm and a crucial phase in human development.
There are many developmental tasks which needs to be accomplished before the individual can move to the next stage of maturity such as:
1. Becoming comfortable with their own bodies and the pubertal changes taking place
2. Accepting responsibility and working towards independence from parents and other adult authority figures.
3. Building new and meaningful relationships with others of the same and the opposite sexes
4. Seeking emotional and economic stability.
5. Developing one's own value system.
Lets define Academic achievement to understand Academic Underachievement:
Academic achievement is the measure of how much one has attained intellectually. Most educational institutions such as schools, colleges use marks or grades of a student as an important index of his/her academic achievement. It is this index, which labels him/her as a high or a low performer.
Academic underachievement on the other hand has been defined as the ability of a particular child to achieve the sort of success expected of him/her when all his/her capabilities, including intellectual development and social and emotional maturity are taken into account (Cartwright et al., 1980). In other words an academic underachiever would be one whose performance in school does not match with his intellectual ability. (School underachievement has become the leading reason for referral to counselors in the recent years followed by behavior related problems).
Hammar (1967) gave the following three categories of academic Underachievement:

1) Psychogenic underachievers: the word psychogenic means 'Genesis in Psychological problems'. These academic problems appeared to be related to primary emotional disturbances and environmental factors.
2) Specific learning problems (including reading disability) without evidence of mental retardation: These children have decoding problems, such as disabilities of reading. Other problems could be related to spelling, mathematics and handwriting.
3) Subnormal intelligence: In laymen terms, subnormal intelligence is intelligence below average. These students have deficiencies in judgement; conceptualization and adaptability.

What are some of the other factors contributing to Academic Underachievement?

The self or the Personal factors:
The various factors related to self that contribute to academic underachievement are self-concept, interests, goals and study habits. Emotional factors such as temperament, anxiety, stress at a critical period, lack of motivation, avoidance of learning, generally impaired psychological function, and intelligence are also a part of self-related factors of academic underachievement in adolescents.
Family related factors:
The family related factors, which could be responsible for adolescent's underachievement, are background characteristics such as parental education, parental occupation, ordinal position and the size of the family. The other factors that could play a role are motivation from parents, parenting styles, and intra-family relationships.
School related factors:
The school related factors which could play a role in adolescent's academic underachievement are class size, pupil - teacher relationships, transition from one school to another, attendance, social competence and popularity among peer group.
The management of these psychosocial factors assumes an important role to tackle the problem of academic underachievement in adolescents.
What may be some of the management techniques used by self?

1. It is recommended that the students should work towards having positive self-concept under the guidance of teachers, parents and counselors.
2. It may be beneficial that they set academic oriented goals, be systematic, organized and adopt good study habits. Planning their day and stipulating time for studies everyday including time for doing homework.
3. Revision of work whatever is done in school would also help retain content and avoid last minute tension that could lead to anxiety thereby having an impact on scores.
4. It is advised that students should motivate themselves to achieve higher grades by constantly reminding themselves of their target, which could be supported by calming exercises like yoga or reiki.
5. Taking responsibility for their actions and accepting defeat gracefully are important traits and if need be a student could confide in an adult such as parents, teacher, counselor or relative for help to resolve their problem.
What may be some of the management techniques used by family?

1. To have a positive reinforcing effect on an under achieving child, the family may need to set good role models.
2. It is generally observed that underachievers have poor self esteem so it may be helpful if the parent’s role is that of a facilitator and not be critical of the child.
3. The parents could help the child set small achievable goals. A small success usually boosts a child's morale and would give him/her strength to carry on with fervor.
4. Helping the child learn study techniques, by working on note-taking, textbook management, goal setting, time management and organizational skills may be advantageous.
5. Praising the child for each and every small effort made by him/her and rewarding aptly while at the same time not comparing the child's performance with any other individual.
6. Making sure that the child's health nutrition, sleep patterns and activity levels are at an optimal best. It would also bring valuable change if the parent could join a support group and exchange ideas and experiences.
7. Discouraging negative traits such as procrastination, manipulation and blame game and promoting positive behavior such as taking responsibility for actions and accepting challenges. Encouraging child's interests, regardless of the level of school success may also be useful.
8. Monitoring child's peer group as it can have a detrimental effect on child's self esteem, academic performance and can pose serious problems in the process of becoming well-adjusted adolescents and adults.
9. An expert like a counselor or a psychologist could be consulted if the situation is dire without being fearful of any stigma attached to it for the emotional as well as psychological well being of the child.
Most importantly, telling your child every now and then how much you love him or her irrespective of his/her performance.

What may be some of the helpful management techniques used by the school?
1. It is suggested that all students should have access to establish positive relationship with their teachers. The students may put forth greater efforts and demonstrate a higher degree of persistence if their teachers appreciate them.
2. Early identification of the underachievers may help in establishing the line of help that may be provided for the child by the school.
3. High rates of school mobility due to parental transfers or other factors could lead to poor performance in school. The teachers could play a significant role in adjustment of a new student by helping him/her build peer group relationships.
4. Teachers could help build positive peer group relationships amongst pupils. Even peer tutoring could be used to deal with academic underachievement in which an academic underachiever could be paired with an achiever.
5. Schools may have a counselor, coach, or an academic content teacher in whom a child could confide to help reverse the problem of academic underachievement.
6. There have been many instances where involving underachievers in clubs, co-curricular activities, sports, debate, dance, drama have proven to be beneficial for them.
7. Integrating real-life examples with classroom information and using hands-on learning activities to provide better insight will help learners relate to the topic thereby making it more interesting.
Academic underachievement becomes an area of paramount importance since today's youth will play a significant role tomorrow in deciding future of the country, and only well educated individuals can bring glory to themselves as well as their country. Parents along with the school could work in coordination with each other keeping in mind the goal to help children realize their potential and bring them back on the path of success.
“It’s never too late to be who you might have been.”- George Eliot

Saturday, 5 April 2014

Top 4 ways to get more out of your child's school

Today progressive schools are more open to constructive feedback and suggestions than in the past. As parents it is perhaps important to create a positive connection with your child's school so as to collaborate for your child’s all round development. A positive and open dialogue rather than a tug and pull, which may result in bitter feelings; may compromise the child's learning experience. Here are top 4 ways to collaborate with your child’s school actively.

1. Parent-Teacher Meeting (PTM)

A Parent-Teacher Meeting is an opportunity to connect with individuals who are making an important contribution to your child’s life and perhaps playing an active role in shaping the person that s/he will become. It is a window to the other side - how your child behaves and deals with situations when you are not around. At several occasions, I myself have discovered some really fascinating (and sometimes unnerving) bits about my child.
With time one learns that a PTM is not just about asking questions, it is equally important for us parents to be able to listen to the teacher patiently. Also, it helps not to turn defensive when the teacher points out issues (behavioral or academic) that need to be addressed on the home front.
Taking a list of the things you want to discuss helps steer the meeting in the right direction. It helps to prioritize things that you want to discuss at length. In my own experience, I have to constantly remind myself that there are other equally anxious parents waiting in line.
And there have been times when I have carried a long list of questions that I thought would require a debate or end up in an argument, but were patiently addressed by the teachers who, for our benefit, are trained to handle our queries.

2. Give feedback, Voice your woes

Gone are those days, when walking in to meet the Nursery school admission in Delhi NCR administration was perhaps the only way to communicate. Today there are various channels through which, you may convey your dissatisfaction, such as the almanac (school diary), email, feedback drop box at the school, phone call to the teachers, online and offline feedback forms and social media.
Interestingly, we have a tendency to reach out to the school only when we are unhappy about something. I have done that myself when my child was younger. However, through the years I have learnt that once in a while, we can use the same communication tools to convey our appreciation for the teachers or the school at large.
For example, feeling overwhelmed by the radical changes that have recently taken place in my child’s school, I figured that the easiest and the most effective way to convey my appreciation to the teachers was to send a diary note. The teachers were equally overwhelmed and reverted saying that the genuine praise motivated them to do better.

3. Volunteer; Lend a Helping Hand

For parents who wish to participate in the school's activities, there are plenty of opportunities and some schools even invite parents to volunteer for certain events. Since many of these events are organized over the weekend, working parents can also join in as per their convenience. Here are some ways you can offer support to your child’s school:

1. Assist on the Sports day
2. Help in organizing Science and literature fairs
3. Accompany and assist the teachers on field trips
4. Volunteer for Picnics and Excursions
5. Help organize Fund Raisers and community events
6. Assist in Art festivals
7. Volunteer to night stay during Night Camps
8. Offer to assist children with special needs
9. Contribute content for school magazine, media coverage

Apart from the above, you may also share your own unique ideas with the school, such as:

• Organize career guidance sessions for senior classes; share your experience and expertise from your field of work.
• Offer to volunteer for an activity the school does not usually organize – technical workshops, theater, reading sessions, culinary (chocolate-making, cake making etc).
• Offer to arrange events such as:
- Dialogue between the City Councilor and students
- Dialogue between students and key social helpers to sensitize students
towards our social support system
- Sessions on tricky issues such as child sexual abuse, bullying in school, dealing with peer pressure, exam stress and similar areas by sharing your own experience

4. Parents’ Groups – Team up for positive change

You can connect with like-minded fellow parents and form a parents’ group wherein periodical meetings may be held to discuss and collate constructive feedback, improvement suggestions that may be presented to the school. Parents have found that this is a great platform to share best practices and / or problems with fellow parents. You may even do that on Parentune by forming a circle of fellow parents and by engaging on a regular basis.
However, the true spirit of any parents’ group lies in creating a healthy dialogue with the school. Many times, being a harbinger of complaints and criticism of the school’s policies robs parents' associations of their original purpose.
Since schooling is such an important part of a child's lives, making friends with the school can be a great way to involve your self in the child's growth and learning. When the intent at both ends is to nurture future citizens, partnership is better than working in isolation, as together parents and schools can do much more for the child than in isolation. I hope that you found the articles (a series of two) of utility. Please share your views in the comments section below.

Thursday, 3 April 2014

Being a Mother - The most wonderful creation of God

Mother – One of the most wonderful creations of God.

When I look back at the past 25 years of my life, I can hardly count the number of times I would have thanked my mother for all that she did for me. The selfless love, care and respect that she has given me is invaluable. She has gone through everything- sleepless nights to changing nappies, making us gobble down our food 3 times a day, resolving our tantrums while managing the household chores- all with a smile.

She is a huge reserve of patience such that we always saw a smile on her face even after a hard day at work. I wonder how many times had we thought of helping her??

The “toddler me” never noticed her sacrifices, the “teenage me” ignored it by branding it as her duty, but as I step into her shoes today, I realize that she genuinely deserves more than what I have given her. She taught me lessons of life which I will treasure; she always stood by me in times of need even before she was asked. She guided me when I was wrong, supported me when I was right, appreciated each small tasks that I did - be it cooking, stitching, painting or knitting (which I finally never learnt). How many times would I have acknowledged her support???

As I see my little son come up to me with his beautiful eyes filled with love and admiration, I realize how life changes when you become the world for your little one, it would have for my mother too…

Its better late than never!!!

Dedicating this article to my mother, I thank her wholeheartedly for being my inspiration.

Wednesday, 2 April 2014

10 Ways To Have Fun With Your Child on April Fools’ Day

Why should children have all the fun? This April Fools’ Day give them a peak to the prankster in you and enjoy some great family time. We get you some fun ideas to surprise your children today.

1) Pick up your kid from school wearing a funny wig.
2) Call up in your most authoritative voice, on the landline, getting the child to think the principal called with a list of complaints.
3) Stick a helium balloon in the toilet seat and close the lid over it.
4) Fill the cereal bowl with water and stick a spoon in it a couple of hours before. Place it in the freezer. Serve the milk and cornflakes over the ice and have fun.
5) Put a gummy bug in his sandwich or plant a big picture of a geeky hero in their wallet.
6) Leave a funny note on the toilet paper.
7) When the child is out of home, use the opportunity to turn as many things as possible upside down—photographs, chairs, tricycles etc.
8) Draw on their faces with washable markers. Paint big dots or hearts on the faces or an exaggerated smile.
9) Sprinkle some baking soda in the toilet bowl and ensure your young scientist of a child is the first to use it. He will be flummoxed by all the foam.
10) Stuff some newspaper in the toes of the shoes.

Try our ideas and write in to us sharing your moment of fun.